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The Empty Praise of Grace

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The praise of grace /or forgiveness in the face of vitriolic racism perpetuates the idea that anger is not a valid response. Anger is a valid response to racism. I reject the idea that someone has to turn the other cheek or hold someone’s hand while experiencing the pain inflicted by that same person in order to be seen as sympathetic. The people who perpetuate that idea are insecure with their own conduct, racism or otherwise, and want that same evenhanded approach to their misdeeds. This is a tactic to continue the status quo. This is a way to make consequences not that bad and I’m not here for it. This brings me to Ugandan model Aamito Lagum and something I saw on glamour.com. Continue reading The Empty Praise of Grace

5 Reasons I Say F*** Emily’s Feelings From The Devil Wears Prada

Fuck Emily's Feelings

The Devil Wears Prada is one of my absolute favorite movies and this year it’s turning 10. Yes, the movie about the girl with the job a million girls would kill for has been out for a whole decade. So I thought I would break down my 5 reasons Andy(Anne Hathaway) shouldn’t give a damn about not skipping Paris to spare Emily’s feelings.

Cinematically, the moment Andy flings it all away at Place de la Concorde puts on a button on Andy’s growth and blah blah blah.  However, I still don’t like it. Andy should feel bad about Nigel(Stanley Tucci), but she shouldn’t care about Emily and here’s why.

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Is “Silence” The Word Among Black Beauty Bloggers?

Should Black Beauty Bloggers Speak Out

Luvvie Ajayi, digital strategist and humor blogger at Awesomely Luvvie sent out a series of tweets last night about black beauty bloggers being silent in light of recent events. The recent events I’m referring to are the shootings at Emanuel AME Church in South Carolina and the series of black church burnings that have followed that terrible act. I’m going to paraphrase Ajayi as best I can.

My interpretation of the tweets is with great power comes great responsibility(shoutout to Uncle Ben). If black beauty bloggers have a platform then they should use that platform to speak up and not just because it personally affects them, but because their readers are affected too. Even if someone disagrees with this premise it’s not a terrible on its face and yet it doesn’t sit right with me.

Luvvie Ajayi Calls Out Black Beauty Bloggers

What didn’t sit right with me was the vagueness of it. If you check Luvvie’s mentions many bloggers responded to her tweets in agreement so that obviously meant they weren’t being called to the carpet for their silence. But for those that didn’t respond, I’m left with this feeling of who is she talking about? I don’t like that feeling because it’s accusatory. I’m checking facebook fan pages and twitter timelines to see if this black beauty blogger or that black beauty blogger is acknowledging what’s been happening in recent weeks or if it’s business as usual. I’m judging myself because I’ve echoed this sentiment before and now I’m not sure where I stand on this.

I see multiple sides to the issue. The obvious one is responsibility as stated before. There’s the idea that silence is approval at worst and indifference at best. There’s the idea that just because I or you don’t see posts doesn’t mean it’s being ignored by individual bloggers. There’s the possibility that some don’t want to muddy the waters with their POV because they’re deferring to folks who know more or at least perceived that way. There’s also the idea that there are many ways to show support be it tweets, donations, or blog posts. How I like to do things may not be how you like to do it, you know?

Here’s the main thing for me. For the last few years when a racially charged issue has popped off the black beauty bloggers I follow are aware and speaking on it, so calling out black beauty bloggers as a whole for ignoring what’s happening is misleading. Black beauty bloggers are speaking up consistently, the question may be are folks paying attention to them. And if they’re not, why?

So I’m going to put it to you, beauty bloggers and readers alike. Is speaking up for/against an issue a requirement, consequences be damned? If your faves are being quiet on issues, like racism, are you giving them the sideeye? No matter where you stand and let me know what you think in the comments.

The Big Deal To Me About Kat Von D's Underage Red

Underage Red Title

It seems outrage over one of Kat Von D’s lipsticks caught the attention of some folks at Business Insider. The lipstick in question? Underage Red, a lipstick that has been out for years. Not buying the outrage behind it, Cindy Ha at SFUnzipped wrote an article and provided a slideshow about some other makeup products she thought had “racy” names. Those names like Too Faced Better Than Sex Mascara or Nars Cosmetics Orgasm blush are familiar and in many a makeup lover’s bag or vanity. KVDs Underage Red may be as well. However, Orgasm or G-spot or Kinky don’t have the same connotation as “underage”. Continue reading The Big Deal To Me About Kat Von D's Underage Red

Significant Others: Influencing Your Look or Nah? #BuryMeMondays

Does Your SO Influence Your Look burymemondays

Let me be upfront. This post is influenced by Kim Kardashian West’s recent blonde dye job and her unique fashion choices as of late. Depending on who you ask her husband, Kanye West, is the mastermind behind all these questionable choices and she’s just going along with it. Since many of the choices are an unflattering departure from what she’s typically worn I won’t knock that assessment, however, maybe she just wanted something new(or maybe this). With all that said does your significant other influence your look?

Have you increased or decreased the amount of makeup you wear to please your partner? Have you changed your hair or clothing style based on their suggestions? Were they on point or did you immediately want to go back to your previous style? Let me know in the comments.

YouTube Gurus Shouldn't Lose Sleep Over Google Glass Make-Up Tutorials

5 Reasons YouTube Tutorials Here To Stay

Make-up artists that work for French luxury brand YSL(Yves Saint Laurent) will start offering 45 minute in-store makeup tutorials recorded with Google Glass across the UK. Customers will be able to rewatch these videos so Bianca London for Mail Online wonders if Google Glass tutorials means the end of YouTube beauty stars? I say no and here are 5 reasons: Continue reading YouTube Gurus Shouldn't Lose Sleep Over Google Glass Make-Up Tutorials

New and Improved! Nars Lip Gloss – Stella

Full Disclosure: Nars Cosmetics Lip Gloss in Stella was sent to me. I was not obligated to review. All opinions/reviews about the product are my own.  

I was lucky enough to be a sent a few Nars Cosmetics products last week. One of them happened to be their reformulated lip gloss in Stella. This is my first experience with the new formula and I’m pretty impressed.

Nars Cosmetics Lip Gloss in Stella $26
Nars Cosmetics Lip Gloss in Stella. $26

One of the complaints about the old formula was its thickness and stickiness. It wasn’t ever anything that kept me from purchasing, but the new formula doesn’t have those problems. When I remove the wand from the gloss I can tell that there isn’t any resistance. With the old glosses that’s not the case.

Stella is described as a muted raspberry
Stella is described as a muted raspberry

It felt more moisturizing than the old formula. I tend to purse my lips or rub them together and I could tell that this gloss was much lighter than the old gloss. My lips moved past each other easily. I didn’t feel any tackiness that I’ve come to expect with most lip glosses.

The packaging has changed as well. The old tube was somewhat frosted which made the color look hazy while the new tube is clear so there’s no doubt about what color you’re purchasing.

Nars Cosmetics Lip Gloss Packaging Comparison
I’m really not sure which packaging I like the best. What do you think?

A downside to the new formula and packaging is that you’re getting less product. The original formula’s net weight varied between .24oz and .28oz and this new formula is .18oz. If you’re big on these lip glosses you might feel cheated because you losing around 25% of the product but still paying the original price of $26.

I still think the glosses are worth it, especially if you’re looking for something to correspond with a Nars lip product you already have or want to buy. If you go to the Nars Cosmetics website and choose a product it will show other products that work well with it. I know there are cheaper dupes for a lot of products, but I’m also a fan of taking the guesswork out of make-up buying. I like having products that I feel were made to work together so I know that I’m going to replace my older Nars Lip Glosses with the new ones to go with lipsticks I already own.

Have you tried a new Nars Cosmetics Lip Gloss? How do you think it compares to the old formula?

Nars Cosmetics Lip Gloss retails for $26 and is available at narscosmetics.com, and wherever Nars Cosmetics are sold.

5 Things You Can Do For Yourself On Mother’s Day

I was browsing the web looking for other bloggers in my area and I found this post about mommy maintenance and it inspired me to write my own post about taking care yourself as a mother.

They're giving you flowers for Mother's Day, but what are you giving to yourself?
They’re giving you flowers for Mother’s Day, but what are you giving to yourself?

Mother’s Day is less than a week away. It’s supposed to be the day to be doted upon and appreciated, but it only comes once a year. Motherhood is a tough job and it’s easy to put yourself last even at your own expense. We need more than one day to take care of ourselves so here are 5 things that you might be able to do to take care of you whether it’s Mother’s Day or not.

  1. Take space back – What I mean by taking space back is claiming something that used to be yours that isn’t anymore. Maybe you’ve become accommodating with a space in your house. You’ve let clutter build or let someone else take it over even though they have other spaces in your home. I say take it back.

I have a small room at the back of my house that I used to exercise in, but stopped because I let it get overtaken by clutter. I want to start exercising again so the first step for me is making a space to do it. I still have to fight procrastination, but this is a beginning. You can’t get anywhere without taking a first step.

  1. Have a drink that’s just for you. – Don’t think this is only about alcohol. I love a good cocktail, but it doesn’t have to be that. Maybe you’ve seen something on the web or on Pinterest that you want to try and haven’t done so because no one else would like it but you. Now is the time to give it a shot. And if you do want it be alcoholic, go for it. Just don’t worry about sharing because it’s for you.

 

This is my Cool T-shirt pinterest board. No one cares about it but me and that's just fine.
This is my Cool T-shirt pinterest board. No one cares about it but me and that’s just fine.
  1. Create a “Mine” Pinterest board – Pinterest is a great place to curate all the things that you like. There are all kinds of recipe boards and ideas for things that have to do with the home, but I want you to ignore that(at least at first) and think about the things you like. Think about things you used to like but don’t think you have time for anymore. Make a board about it. Remember the things that interested you before you had other people think about.

 

  1. Use those beauty products – This is still Bury Me In Red Lipstick so I have talk about beauty products. It’s only right. 😉 Seriously, I know you have unused beauty products somewhere. Whether it’s something you bought for yourself and haven’t got around to using or some Secret Santa gift, you’ve got something. Take a moment to make sure it’s not expired and have that bubble bath. Slather on that moisturizer. Test out that lipstick. Someone might ask you what you’re doing in the bathroom but who cares. This is your time for yourself and it’s okay.
  1. Give yourself permission to do these things – We’re told over and over again that motherhood is about taking care of others. Who we are and what we do is in relation to our children. I don’t dispute this, but taking this stance might cause a mother to lose herself. Motherhood is important and so are you.

There’s nothing selfish about taking time to do something you like. Causing a minor inconvenience to your spouse or your child(ren) is nothing to lose sleep over. You’re going to give everything to everyone else, but at some point you have to refill the tank so you have something give. You can only run on empty for so long before something breaks down.

In the end, these are just suggestions. You don’t have to do all of them or any of them. The main point of this post is just to say take care of you. And while this was directed toward mothers, anyone who’s taking care of someone else could benefit from taking care of themselves.

I hope you all have a happy and safe Mother’s Day. If you do decide to take some time for yourself let me know in the comments.

Beauty Q&A: Do You Care How The Face of A Brand Presents Itself?

The internet is full of conflict. While some people thrive on it to the point of seeking it out, I tend to avoid it. There are positives and negatives to this type of mentality I won’t get into because this post isn’t about me but about you and what you think.

Within the last couple of days these things have been posted on Doe Deere’s Instagram page. Doe Deere is the creator of independent make-up brand Lime Crime.

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This obviously a screenshot but you can see it here.

 

Doe Deere reposted an IG post of Kat Von D's response to a commenter and praised her for it.
Doe Deere reposted an IG post of Kat Von D’s response to a commenter and praised her for it.

Some comments on the posts felt the response was justified while others felt it was unprofessional. I’m not exactly sure where I stand with this. I’m not the insulting type. Like I said, I tend to avoid conflict, but I can’t imagine what it’s like for people to try you on a regular basis. We all know some people suddenly become brave because they’re behind a computer screen and not in your face. However, another part of me wonders since the owner/face of a brand possibly has more to lose than some commenter why acknowledge them with vitriol and blemish your brand or persona?

While I like Lime Crime I’m not emotionally invested in the brand. It wouldn’t hurt me to stop using the products because I’ve only purchased one product from them. However, if François Nars(my patronus) did something like this regularly I would be conflicted about continuing to support that brand.

I bring all this up to ask, where do you stand when it comes to these issues? Do you think the face of a brand should always practice a certain level of decorum even in the face of (possibly unfair) criticism/insults or do you think he/she is allowed to defend his/herself without it affecting the brand?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this so please leave a comment below.